Countless books have been written on the subject of how to balance work life with family life. Some focus on developing time-management skills, others teach us to not sweat the small things. The opinions of authors vary widely. I don’t claim to be an expert on balancing work and family, but I have been on both sides of the debate. Many years ago when my children were young and I worked full time, I believed if I were happy in my career, it would make for happy, well-balanced children. I thought I could be ‘Super Mom’ and do it all—work full time, continue my education and take care of my family. It wasn’t until I became a work-at-home mom that I realized how life could be richer. Sure, successful working moms can create a finely tuned schedule to keep all the balls up in the air but that is juggling, which isn’t really balancing. Balance is a ‘mental and emotional steadiness’, according to Merriam-Webster.
No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money. –Matthew 6:24 (NIV)
Do you know that feeling of being stressed, frazzled, exhausted, or having no idea what you’re doing—followed by the sensation that something’s got to give? That’s not balance. It’s the feeling just before something gets neglected. Assuming we get plenty of rest (ha!), we’re sleeping 8 hours and working 8 hours each day. That leaves just 8 hours to squeeze in cooking, cleaning, errands, taxiing, volunteering, social obligations, spending time with our spouse, me-time and oh yeah … raising our children. We don’t need to read some book to know our kids should see us happy.  Our children need our attention and the reality is they only need us for a little while. We can choose to spend those years juggling or we can spend them creating a harmonious environment. It’s our choice… but let me ask you this, have you ever heard of a dying person’s last words to be I wish I would have spent more time at work? No, me neither. Do you struggle with balancing work and family? Do you feel like you have no choice? Use the comment form below to share your opinion.

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